I agree with everything Brutha, and thanks for reminding me some of the basic assumptions of NLP.
But here...
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Originally Posted by Brutha No, whether you have peace in your mind is all about yourself and you are entirely responsible for having peace with yourself. |
...I actually meant "peace of mind" in the sense of my satisfaction with the outcome.
Outcome 1: She understands and accepts everything I say, yet she prefers the other guy because despite everything, he is better than me in meeting her romantic needs.
---> I can understand that, and I'm fine with that.
Outcome 2: For some reasons she doesn't even tell me (or doesn't even know herself), she totally misunderstood my past behavior, and doesn't want to believe me that I am actually different from the person whom she experienced in the past.
For example, when I say, "Sorry I was really distracted on that day. I was so excited about your reaction that I didn't act spontaneously and because of that I probably gave you the impression that I don't care for you." she might think that I'm only inventing an excuse...
Actually, the last time we spoke it seemed like anything I said, she thought it was just an excuse, and not the truth...
---> There is something wrong with the communication, and I would try to change it so that she believes me.