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RRR · 12-19-2008, 11:14 AM

I love this thread

Andrew - the cat, no big deal. One time I was incredibly close to screwing a dog. Tossing out the Vcard for a pooch would have been a wonder for my self esteem! We could have had puppies! I love puppies!

Ps. Curiosity will literally kill the cat, please don't screw housepets.

My parents were very emotionally withdrawn from me, I was neglected and treated as broken when I stopped functioning well around 3rd grade. Then the problem was ignored

I don't know why parenting seems so difficult. Almost everyone I know has really really bad parents. That is what makes us all feel so ashamed of blaming our parents, no one else openly decries the burden of bad parenting, we may not have been beaten enough to complain, ignored enough, verbally abused enough, to feel worthy of complaint. We all deserve the freedom to complain about bad parents. Parents take on a very hefty responsibility and most of them have no business raising children. They can't help it most of the time though, they were raised by crappy parents and put into a society full of people raised by bad parents. Most of the problems we witness with the majority of people are caused by the way they were raised. I find compassion is much easier once I realize this. Anyone who slights you has been raised in these conditions, probably had emotionally detached parents, a horrible school experience, the awkwardness we all share throughout our early lives, some people never recover. This is why shame is unnecessary. Everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect, and the vast majority of us have been fighting demons since day one.

12-19-2008, 11:14 AM	#144 (permalink)
RRR Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: San Rafael, California Posts: 451	I love this thread Andrew - the cat, no big deal. One time I was incredibly close to screwing a dog. Tossing out the Vcard for a pooch would have been a wonder for my self esteem! We could have had puppies! I love puppies! Ps. Curiosity will literally kill the cat, please don't screw housepets. My parents were very emotionally withdrawn from me, I was neglected and treated as broken when I stopped functioning well around 3rd grade. Then the problem was ignored I don't know why parenting seems so difficult. Almost everyone I know has really really bad parents. That is what makes us all feel so ashamed of blaming our parents, no one else openly decries the burden of bad parenting, we may not have been beaten enough to complain, ignored enough, verbally abused enough, to feel worthy of complaint. We all deserve the freedom to complain about bad parents. Parents take on a very hefty responsibility and most of them have no business raising children. They can't help it most of the time though, they were raised by crappy parents and put into a society full of people raised by bad parents. Most of the problems we witness with the majority of people are caused by the way they were raised. I find compassion is much easier once I realize this. Anyone who slights you has been raised in these conditions, probably had emotionally detached parents, a horrible school experience, the awkwardness we all share throughout our early lives, some people never recover. This is why shame is unnecessary. Everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect, and the vast majority of us have been fighting demons since day one. Last edited by RRR; 12-19-2008 at 11:57 AM.