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Old 12-19-2008, 05:14 AM   #13 (permalink)
Lauxa
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DH has nothing but scorn for "magical" notions. I just don't talk to him about that stuff as much as possible. When he decides to bring it up I usually get defensive, and that illuminates something I need to work on. The last time was around September when he started slamming into "Ask and It Is Given". He is a skeptic and says that he just doesn't want me to become so gullible and believe things blindly without any proof.

For some things, I just try to rephrase in terms he can accept. For instance, I have renamed the "Law of Attraction" the "Strategy of Attraction" (as it is not a "Law" in a scientific or legal sense). We had a conversation where I asked him what strategy he thought would work better for getting what he wanted in life -- primarily thinking about what he wants or primarily thinking about what he doesn't want. When I put it like that he was like, duh, thinking about what you want probably works better.

I think it is great to have conversations with skeptics sometimes because they can point out flaws in your logic and help you to conclusions you may not have thought of before. But you have to go into the conversation with an open mind and be ready to do the hard work of holding up your beliefs to the light of another person's experiences. Sometimes you might not have the energy or the fortitude, and that's okay. The goal should not be to change their minds about anything but to gain a deeper understanding of your own mind.
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