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Originally Posted by lifetimelearner
I don't feel any better for letting a few things out -I still feel ashamed that I did the things I did and I sometimes feel that I deserve to be fat and lonely because of what I have done in the past .
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okay who posted this in my name 
you made mistakes girl
big hairy deal !!!  |
I thought about this effect too. It's one thing to be forgiven by someone else and that doesn't really heal you. What does - is forgiving yourself.
I think Steve started up with that in the blog there.
If you feel the need to hide something, then you aren't over it (haven't forgiven yourself) because you fear people will judge you for it as you are judging yourself.
I don't think just telling someone else your hidden story is the step to personal forgiveness. Being honest about your past doesn't, by itself, produce forgiveness. Being able to tell your story without worrying about people judging you is a sign you have forgiven yourself.