As a woman in her 30's who loves kids (not just my own)... I must jump in to defend "women who talk about nothing but their kids."
Ever met a fitness buff who talked about nothing but diet and exercise? Ever met a Star Trek fan who talked about nothing but Star Trek? Ever met a political junkie who talked about nothing but politics! Ever met a gamer who talked about nothing but playing WoW (or City of Heroes, etc)?
I can exclaim, they are so boring! All these women ever talk about are politics/star trek/diet&exercise! It's their whole life!
So just to give an countering perspective... people talk about what it is that interests them, what inspires their passions, what ignites them. And for some people, it's children (or sharing their life with children). For some people, it's their own children. It's normal to talk about what you love, all the time. Actually, it's expected.
You are free to think they have "no life" for talking about kids so much, but it may just not be the life you want. It may be exactly the life they have always wanted.
I was like you once, I was happy for many years, traveling all over the world, doing what I want, ultimate freedom, before I had a child. And you know what? Sharing my life with children beats them all - but it may be drudgery to you, and that's ok.
So you say your life is joyous and blessed, being a woman without a husband or children. Good for you! So go out, live your joyful life, have a blast!
But please don't knock the rest of us who made different choices - because we are also living a joyful life too! Just a different one from you.
And some of us married with kids folks don't quite understand that there are different paths to joy. Ever discovered something that made you happy and wanted to share it with others? That's what some of us try to do, have you walk our path to joy, instead of your own. Cut us some slack, go have fun, be single and fabulous!
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