I once had to break up with a guy who thought I was his whole world. But it was not a good fit for me, nor was it for him. It was not a LLTMBR - as Angela has called it.
I felt tremendous guilt over it, he wanted to kill himself, his life had no meaning, I was the best thing, how could I take myself away? And I felt really awful. I still feel bad - for him, because even now, 11 years later, he is not a happy person.
But you know what? It was the best thing I ever did. He's may not be a happy person, but I am. His happiness was not my job. His happiness is his to seek. Not mine to give.
So what I would like to tell you: Her happiness is not your job. It is hers. You are doing her a disservice if you stay with her out of guilt. And ruining your life to boot.
Walk away with love. It's just not a good fit right now. No one is broken or damage. You guys just are not right for each other, doesn't mean you will never be right for anyone else. Tell her that. Then let her go with love.
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