Wow, this is a really wonderful post. Thank you.
But I have to disappoint you again by saying that the following...
Quote:
Next time you are in a group of people or with a friend and you want to cross the street or go into a store, DONT say anything and just do it. Don’t look back to see if they follow you, just keep walking.
If they don’t follow you become comfortable with the uneasiness that comes when you stray from the group.
Take this exercise and do it ALL of the time. When you are at a club and you want to dance, just go dance without asking anyone else or checking to see what everyone else is doing.
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exactly what I do in normal life, when I am not with girls.
Sometimes people even say that I am rude because I always go without asking... sometimes I even disappear and reappear in the group without notice.
I do things without thinking that nobody else would have ever imagined.
However, it is difficult to do so when you already like a person and don't want to hurt her/loose her/etc. you know what I mean.
But apparently, I lost this girlfriend because I was
not a leader in her presence...
What a strange and ironic reality.
Now, I don't expect to get her back really. The more I think forward, the more I believe that I can get more out of life by moving on... yet, I cannot just erase my emotional affinity towards her. I want to at least... "stay friends" with her, because I
care for her and we also
had fun together, apart from the romantic relationship...
Problem is that I am so used to being a "girlfriend-pleaser" with her, that I don't know what will happen if I do something... wrong?