[LordSappington]

She is likely telling the truth about being confused. She probably doesn't know all the reasons herself. She just knows things aren't feeling right, but she doesn't know why. If you want to find out the reasons, you're going to have to wait quite a while until she sorts them out for herself. It's been my experience that takes months or even years sometimes. I don't think you can re-frame negative emotions in this context. You can apologize for things you've done, but it's hard to apologize for something when you don't know what you did, and if she just feels like the two of you aren't clicking anymore, it's impossible to apologize for just being yourself. I don't think there's any reliable way to push her towards liking you in the same way again. Love is a very confusing and unpredictable experience, so anything you try to do is likely to give unforseen consequences.