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Originally Posted by TektonikShift  Oh come on... are you all telling me there is absolutely no solution to this kind of scenario?  |
To some extent, yes. NLP is good for meeting people, building up rapport, and becoming a better socializer. It always struck me as a list of useful tricks that people with social skills use subconsciously. It's good for getting you into the door, but once that happens, the relationship should be able who you are.
Your ex-girlfriend has decided that who you are is not who she wants in her life currently. It most likely has something to do with you. Maybe you're too closed off. But it also has something to do with her, and it's very unlikely you'll ever figure out her problem, since she is probably struggling on defining it for herself. Do you really think you can show a side of yourself that will wow her now? And if so, why didn't you do it earlier? She'll certainly be wondering that, and I suspect if you think of that answer, you may understand why the relationship is most likely over. I'm not saying it's your fault, but relationships are about *two* people, and if one person just isn't feeling it anymore, a tremendous effort by the other person can't really fix that.