This is an interesting question. I think for me, the excitement of finding someone new, and the drama of a relationship ending, can both be detrimental to the rest of my life. On the other hand I think first dates at least expose me to more different people and ideas than I otherwise might experience, which I think is a good thing.
I also think a stable long-term relationship can more efficiently satisfy my needs for companionship compared to keeping up several serious friendships in order to always have someone available. Also my boyfriends tend to be interested in the same things I am interested in, while the majority of people I meet tend not to be, and certainly conversation, new ideas, and shared ambitions/encouragement are helpful in not getting discouraged or overwhelmed.
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