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Originally Posted by funchy  A more helpful approach instead of playing PUA is to work on why some people are having problems meeting and having the relationships they want with the opposite sex. Why the hesitation in talking to others?
Is it that women are hard to meet? Hard to approach? Or hard to get out on a date?
Instead of teaching people to become actors and play a fabricated role, I'd be much more interested in discussing how we can help the real guy. As a woman, in my opinion, we have a whole lot more respect for a guy who is sincere versus the wannabe-player. |
I think the concern that many men have is that a woman won't accept him for who he is. Contrary to what you say about wanting a "real guy", my personal experience with women tells me such fears are legitimate. A man is going to have to put up a front with women anyway, so he might as well pick the one that gets him laid. At least that's how I interpret the logic. Personally, I think the PUA route is way too much work for too little reward. Sex is OK but it's not worth jumping through so many hoops. A deeper relationship maybe would be, but then how deep could it be if you had to jump a bunch of hoops to get it?
In the real world, people generally don't accept other people for "who they really are". PUA's at least understand this much, probably too well.