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Originally Posted by LordSappington  See, the problem isn't that I don't know what to do with her. I already think I have that under control. The problem is that my brain is almost obsessive that she's going to reject me, which not only makes me anxious throughout the day but also is somewhat setting me up for failure. These thoughts really are obsessive and sometimes come out of nowhere. For example, at the grocery store, my inner monologue would go: "Let's see, Jon-a-Gold apples for $1.50 a lb, I'll get maybe 8 or 10 of those, and that should cost about... I wonder why that girl never called me back. She's probably faking interest in me for some reason. She's never calling me back. This just isn't going anywhere...." |
Just play in your head exactly how you would like it to go. You text her, she responds, you make plans, meet up, however you would like the meeting to go, however you would like it to end. Focus only on that.
You can focus on the end result or replay the entire process to yourself.