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openeyes already posted a one liner on this, but I'm gonna elaborate;

even though much of this thread is for physical stuff, I feel the need to add the absolute biggest turn off for me in regards to women; holding the male gender in contempt. The main issue I see is that many women have a false idea about what men are like. They get it from the media, and men who act a certain way in order to be accepted around them. I wonder if they had a more realistic picture of the things that go on inside an average male, even a "nice" one, how they would feel? I doubt they'd be very comfortable. I find it very frustrating when you try to point out the reality of being a man to women and they get pissy, or blow you off. Most women seem to think that men are just fellow women with penises, or they are sick violent brutes. I can see where they get this perception, but neither is anywhere near the reality. Any woman who refuses to look beyond her idealized view is guilty. I'm not just talking about hostile man-hater types. In many ways the "nicer" women who claim to care about men are worse, as they only care based on their idealistic view. At least the hostile women are more straightforward, which I can kind of respect. Sort of.

case in point; I read about a study where 35-50% of men said they would rape a woman if he felt 100% sure he could get away with it. The study was carefully designed, and there was no correlation between jock, frat boy types and "nice guy" types, many who supported things like feminism and women's rights. These are HUGE percentages, not just a select few jerks. I wonder how many women would dismiss hearing about this study right off the back as "absurd" without looking into it? And how many others would use it as an excuse to justify their view that men are "evil violent brutes"? I bet most would do one of these two things. But how many would use this kind of info to try and come to a deeper, more compassionate understanding as to what men were really like? She would be a real keeper.

disclaimer; yea I realize I'm "generalizing" and "not all men are the same" bla bla; so please, no need to point it out. I don't want to get dragged into that kinda quagmire debate.