I use my negative affirmations technique. My theory is that the brain ignores "not" so as long as you put what you want at the end of your sentence, it doesn't matter if you throw in a "not". The trick is to follow up with a visualization of what it would be like without the "not".
So for instance, you are thinking "she's not going to call me back" then you notice that "going to call me back" is at the end of the sentence so you launch off into a visualization of her calling you back and having a wonderful conversation.
Or you think "she's ignoring me on purpose", so now you have to come up with the opposite of this like "she's not busy" or "she didn't forget to check her phone message" and then you do your visualization of these alternate scenarios.
Well, it's really like Crystal Lilly's method, a mantra or whatever, except that when the voice is throwing up "buts" it's reverse psychology... the voice is having to protest that what I actually want to be true but am saying is not true actually is true. Hah! Take that, voice!
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