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LordSappington · 12-13-2008, 04:17 AM

I've noticed lately that I've fallen into a nasty cycle of negative thought patterns, and I can't seem to break out of it.

The background: I met a girl and got her phone number. She seemed really interested in me at the time and found me on Facebook on her own account, and also seems to be talking to her friends about me. We tried to schedule a date a while ago, but I couldn't do it because of my crazy schedule, and she suggested another time, which I couldn't do because I was out of town. I called her a few days ago and left a message on her phone, but I haven't heard back.

So, all in all, it seems like I'm in a good position to be in, but all I can think about is the bad things. I wonder whether she was misleading me. Or if she decided that someone else was better. Or that she was purposely ignoring me because she was angry at me. The vast majority of girls I've dated before have done these things, with many of them lying to me or canceling at the last minute, so I think part of me suspects she's doing the same, although I have no real good reason to believe this about her. Logically, my mind says that she's probably just busy and will call me in a few days, but I can't seem to get these negative ideas out of my head. Does anyone know of a good method?

12-13-2008, 04:17 AM	#1 (permalink)
LordSappington Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 166	Breaking up negative thought patterns I've noticed lately that I've fallen into a nasty cycle of negative thought patterns, and I can't seem to break out of it. The background: I met a girl and got her phone number. She seemed really interested in me at the time and found me on Facebook on her own account, and also seems to be talking to her friends about me. We tried to schedule a date a while ago, but I couldn't do it because of my crazy schedule, and she suggested another time, which I couldn't do because I was out of town. I called her a few days ago and left a message on her phone, but I haven't heard back. So, all in all, it seems like I'm in a good position to be in, but all I can think about is the bad things. I wonder whether she was misleading me. Or if she decided that someone else was better. Or that she was purposely ignoring me because she was angry at me. The vast majority of girls I've dated before have done these things, with many of them lying to me or canceling at the last minute, so I think part of me suspects she's doing the same, although I have no real good reason to believe this about her. Logically, my mind says that she's probably just busy and will call me in a few days, but I can't seem to get these negative ideas out of my head. Does anyone know of a good method?