On the "rummaging for clothes" thing... you could suggest to him to set out his clothes the night before so he won't be so rushed in the morning. Can't make him do it, but maybe he'd see a benefit.
Also, is there any time that you could set aside for talk? Maybe during dinner or over late-night cocktails or for a little while before you go to bed? When he is on the computer, absorbed in something else, is not the time for deep and meaningful conversation, but I think you know this.
I also want to hear what he is good at, what he brings to the relationship that you appreciate. Does he maintain the cars? Mow the yard? Fix the toilet? Make you laugh? Keep up with the news? List as many things as you can.