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Originally Posted by Andrew Brunelle  You can't fix somebody who doesn't want to be fixed himself. The same way proud handicapped people refuse help getting groceries to their car, his pride perhaps keeps him from thinking he needs to be fixed.
Maybe if you didn't think of it as "fixing" him, but bettering his life, and present it to him that way, maybe he'll bite. If not, then it's up to you to leave or stay. |
I understand what you mean... when I say "fix" I do mean assisting him to better his life.. by helping him understand people need to set personal goals in order to achieve things.. otherwise everything will be done tomorrow, next week, next month etc..
I'm not going anywhere... I used to threaten to leave him all the time.. but we are way past that point now... We agreed long ago to not use that as a threat as it's not fair... but I feel that I am powering ahead and he is going to be left behind...
I just want to assist him in gettin to a point where discussions based on our goals and personal/spiritual development will flow freely.. without him feeling like I'm attacking him or putting him down..
he has so much potential... he could be financially rich above and beyond his comprehension.. but I dont think he believes in himself enough...
I got frustrated yesterday and sent him a link to the thread... so it will be interesting to see how much of it he reads, and what he thinks of the comments around him not recognising and nurturing my needs as well as his own..
which reminds me... someone gave him a money tree and some aloe vera.. I told him that he needed to plant it and nurture it.. but it sat in a bucket for three weeks, and I then felt sad energy coming from the plant as it was starting to die.. so I "had to" take the next day off work and repot all of my plants!
oh.. one more afterthought... I got home yesterday and he'd washed ALL of his clothes, the house was spotless and he even did the kitty litter!
he's so beautiful! I think he might be coming around...
