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angies · 12-11-2008, 10:32 AM

Can women and men be friends?

This men and women business is way too complicated. I mean not with your SO but with other men. I can never get the balance right.

Guy #1. become friend after his persistent effort. I started to enjoy his daily conversation and company, then we get a touch over friendly in our conversation. Pooof he gone ... five days with no chat. Took me a while to get over it as I missed him a fair bit. After a long period, we happen to work on the same project so the friendly conversation start again, but this time I am being cautious and hold back so I don't appear to be over friendly to scare him off. It seems the more I hold back the more friendly he gets as if he trying to win me back. But as I became a touch more friendly he sort of pull back. What the hell is going on with this constant tug of war?

Guy #2. friend of friend. Always appear friendly to me at work although I never pay much attention to him. We went out for drinks one day and had a really good time. After a few drinks we get a bit friendly nothing serious just a touch here and there and mucking around. The next day at work, I was being more friendly smiley, saying good morning etc, thinking that after the night before, may be we are now friends, no he was very cold toward me for reason unknown to me. So I don't bother to say hello back any more. So what the hell is going on with the night before? how can a guy be so friendly one night and then don't want to be friend after?

Guy #3 Again become friends after his persistent effort. The we become pretty good friends, working together, go to gym together. Next thing he chasing after another other girl and completely ignore me. I would be lucky to get a hello once a day. What is going on here? Why can't we continue to be friends while he is chasing the other girl? I don't really care about that since we are only friends?

Guy #4 meet for the first time a work function. Had a few drinks and dance. He spent the night telling me how hot I look although I told him repeatedly that I already have a bf. Should I turn a cold shoulder next time we meet because he told me how he felt that night or can we be friends? I don't know if it is a good idea to be friends after all the things he said to me on the night.

Oh why is it so complicated to have male friends. I think men and women are not meant to be friends. The physical things always get in the way. And the constant power struggle is so tiring. What have I done wrong?

12-11-2008, 10:32 AM	#1 (permalink)
angies Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 128	I am giving up on male friends Can women and men be friends? This men and women business is way too complicated. I mean not with your SO but with other men. I can never get the balance right. Guy #1. become friend after his persistent effort. I started to enjoy his daily conversation and company, then we get a touch over friendly in our conversation. Pooof he gone ... five days with no chat. Took me a while to get over it as I missed him a fair bit. After a long period, we happen to work on the same project so the friendly conversation start again, but this time I am being cautious and hold back so I don't appear to be over friendly to scare him off. It seems the more I hold back the more friendly he gets as if he trying to win me back. But as I became a touch more friendly he sort of pull back. What the hell is going on with this constant tug of war? Guy #2. friend of friend. Always appear friendly to me at work although I never pay much attention to him. We went out for drinks one day and had a really good time. After a few drinks we get a bit friendly nothing serious just a touch here and there and mucking around. The next day at work, I was being more friendly smiley, saying good morning etc, thinking that after the night before, may be we are now friends, no he was very cold toward me for reason unknown to me. So I don't bother to say hello back any more. So what the hell is going on with the night before? how can a guy be so friendly one night and then don't want to be friend after? Guy #3 Again become friends after his persistent effort. The we become pretty good friends, working together, go to gym together. Next thing he chasing after another other girl and completely ignore me. I would be lucky to get a hello once a day. What is going on here? Why can't we continue to be friends while he is chasing the other girl? I don't really care about that since we are only friends? Guy #4 meet for the first time a work function. Had a few drinks and dance. He spent the night telling me how hot I look although I told him repeatedly that I already have a bf. Should I turn a cold shoulder next time we meet because he told me how he felt that night or can we be friends? I don't know if it is a good idea to be friends after all the things he said to me on the night. Oh why is it so complicated to have male friends. I think men and women are not meant to be friends. The physical things always get in the way. And the constant power struggle is so tiring. What have I done wrong?