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Originally Posted by ArtVandelay  It should be pretty clear by now that I'm not talking about inherent stuff that people can't change about themselves. I think facial hair, for instance, is a "physical feature." You apparently don't. Whatever. But the point is that instead of sitting here arguing about exactly which words I used, why don't you just respond to the spirit of what I was asking?
Now, again, I understand that personality is hugely important. I'm not denying that or saying that I'd rather be a good-looking jerk than a bad-looking cool guy. What I am saying is that I don't want to unintentionally sabotage my chances with girls I'm attracted to by doing something that I think is perfectly acceptable and girls find highly unattractive. I'm sure the people who leave their hair the way I think is repulsive think it's fine.
If I realized that people were gonna get so upset about a pretty straightforward question that obviously is not motivated by any malice, I don't think I would have asked. I'm kind of floored that you could take my curiosity and try to spin it as some kind of deranged immaturity, but whatever. |
In my first post, I said what I find unattractive. Deliberate carelessness about one's daily hygiene and of course nasty personality. By taking care of your body, you already come across as a more attractive man. We seem to be disagreeing on the answer and approaches to your question, so let's agree to disagree. My response to you is above. However, I do stress that personality traits matter so much more and is a deal-breaker when it's bad.