Quote:
Originally Posted by ArtVandelay  In your mind I might need to "grow up," but I think you're also misunderstanding the depth of relationships at my age. I'm not looking for a wife and I doubt I'm going to fall in love any time soon. Regardless, I don't think that's even the issue here.
What you're trying to tell me is that there is no such thing as a physical deal-breaker, and that's just beyond absurd. Regardless of how much I like them personally and how much time I may want to spend with them, I'm NOT going to have a physical relationship with a girl who has really scraggly hair. It's not because I'm superficial; it's not because I'm immature; and it's not because I'm some kind of mad chauvinist, which is where I fear this is going next. I'm just "anti-attracted" to that kind of hair, and there's nothing I can do about that.
(By the way, if any guy tells you that he would have begun having a physical relationship with you despite having some sort of physical issue that he's particularly repulsed by, he's lying to you. Plain and simple. Certain things are just inherently repulsive for whatever reason, and they kill any sexual attraction I might ever feel for that person).
So, I'm asking what stuff like that girls have problems with. If you're just going to keep repeating that my problem is that I find certain things very unattractive, then you're being incredibly unhelpful and really just antagonistic. Obviously that's not true (unless you think that ALL guys are superficial and need to grow up), and unless women are HUGELY different from men, there are corresponding issues that women feel similarly about.
I don't really understand why you're getting so upset about the fact that physical attributes matter to how attractive people find other people to be. It's a fact of life, not a choice that people make because they want to be "superficial" or because they're immature. |
I just find it frustrating that the reference here is basically to hair and teeth. Again, I am not a men hater and don't think that you are a chauvinist. Yes, looks are important, but have you ever seen not very attractive men with drop-dead gorgeous women? For example, Seal with his facial scars and Heidi Klum? You think she cares about his scars? NO. Why? Because he's so much more than that. So what I am saying to you is that if you are physically repulsed by girls with frizzy hair is ok, you don't have to come close to them. If you take care of yourself (i.e. take a shower, brush your teeth, visit dentist, take care of your skin and hair and overall look clean and maintained) and most importantly work on your personality and HOW you treat a girl, then you will attract quality women. Otherwise, there are tons of jerks with perfect teeth, with amazing hair and washboard abs and guess what? They are still jerks and that's what's unattractive in men!