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Originally Posted by SenoritaBonita  Ahh, I see now. You are in high school, hence the question. Well, a good woman will not mind your spacey but maintained teeth, but she might mind you minding her frizzy hair. You know, women go at great lengths to be attractive, but guess what? She will have messy hair when she wakes up in the morning, her breath will stink, she will need a shower, she will not be wearing heels 24/7 and she will not look like a Barbie doll. And guess what else? When you are in love, you will NOT care, because you will love her personality. I don't think about my man's abs, or teeth or whatever when it comes down to physical stuff, but what he does turns me on because he excites me as a person with all his flaws and great traits.
One thing I can tell you for you - you need to grow up! |
In your mind I might need to "grow up," but I think you're also misunderstanding the depth of relationships at my age. I'm not looking for a wife and I doubt I'm going to fall in love any time soon. Regardless, I don't think that's even the issue here.
What you're trying to tell me is that
there is no such thing as a physical deal-breaker, and that's just beyond absurd. Regardless of how much I like them personally and how much time I may want to spend with them, I'm NOT going to have a physical relationship with a girl who has really scraggly hair. It's not because I'm superficial; it's not because I'm immature; and it's not because I'm some kind of mad chauvinist, which is where I fear this is going next. I'm just "anti-attracted" to that kind of hair, and there's nothing I can do about that.
(By the way, if any guy tells you that he would have begun having a physical relationship with you despite having some sort of physical issue that he's particularly repulsed by, he's lying to you. Plain and simple. Certain things are just inherently repulsive for whatever reason, and they kill any sexual attraction I might ever feel for that person).
So, I'm asking what stuff like that girls have problems with. If you're just going to keep repeating that my problem is that I find certain things very unattractive, then you're being incredibly unhelpful and really just antagonistic. Obviously that's not true (unless you think that ALL guys are superficial and need to grow up), and unless women are HUGELY different from men, there are corresponding issues that women feel similarly about.
I don't really understand why you're getting so upset about the fact that physical attributes matter to how attractive people find other people to be. It's a fact of life, not a choice that people make because they want to be "superficial" or because they're immature.