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Originally Posted by SenoritaBonita  I am very light, but what the title means is that there is more stuff beyond the looks. It's not about being defensive, but about being less superficial. |
It has nothing to do with being superficial. I'm specifically asking about certain things. I said you were welcome to say other things if you wanted, which you're still welcome to do, but please don't call me "superficial" for asking about something that clearly exists and I have no way to know about.
Like I said, there are certain things that I find completely repulsive. I would
never want to have any kind of physical relationship with girls who consistently do these things. Smelling bad is another one.
It has nothing to do with being superficial. It has to do with being a human being. If a man had pus oozing out of his face, I'm sure you would be sufficiently repulsed never to have a physical relationship with them so long as they have that problem. That doesn't make you superficial... it means that you are attracted to certain things and repulsed by others - in other words, it means you're normal.
Now, as a single guy, I'm not really interested in accidentally doing something to myself that's very unattractive to women. It may be true that "it's what's on the inside that matters," but that's really just a platitude if I'm unintentionally doing something that cause women to be completely unattracted to me.
That's also exactly the reason for my example: scraggly hair is extremely unattractive on women, yet it can probably be fixed by switching shampoos. I want to know if I'm doing something similarly wrong that I can easily fix. I'm also just plain old curious. The stuff that's repulsive about girls is obvious to me, but the other way around is not.