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Originally Posted by funchy  Over the years physical beauty fades. Over time fit bodies go soft and people gain weight. Sometimes the hair thins. But the things that endures is the person inside.
Turn-offs are anyone who is condescending, sexist/racist, the self-described 'ladies man', self-absorbed, liars, users, emotional dependents, drama-queens, in love with being depressed, serious addicts, those in major denial, or cavemen.
Turn-ons are those who are real, honest, confident, down-to-earth, intelligent, polite, sensible, sometimes adventurous, willing to try new things, and are finding their passion in life. Bonus points for taking care of themselves (i.e. good hygiene). Triple bonus points for being in touch with their feelings & sexuality. |
I guess I hit your triple bonus points for turn-ons with my ex. He is intelligent, polite, in touch with his sexuality/feelings. But he also is extremely selfish, megalomaniac that only cares about himself. He was confident in many areas of his life, just not with me. He was so intelligent that he couldn't understand the value of family and saw me only as a machine to bear his children and to satisfy his desire. Mind you, he was telling me that he loves me while doing all the above.
I absolutely agree with you that looks fade and hair gets thinner. I don't care about that. For me basic body upkeep is what is it is - BASIC (I spend time waxing, shaving, cutting, clipping, etc...why can he?) but a real turn-on is how he treats me - when he picks me up at the airport with a bouquet of flowers because he missed me, when he helps me take apart my bike when someone blocked it at the rack, when he celebrates my birthday not as another day to spend more money but as the day when someone who loves him so much was born, when we make love and he tells me he loves me while we are doing it, when he is confident enough to discuss whatever problems he has and be open with me. All that matters, looks - not so much.