[Rose of Cairo]

I've always seen romantic relationships as something unnecessary. It was luxury for me, definitely exciting but not necessary to live, and costing time and energy that I could use for more meaningful projects

Now I can see how a romantic relationship (provided it works) can actually improve my ability to contribute indeed, in itself and especially if my partner is also my PD buddy

However, I still think a romantic relationship is not necessary to be happy and make a meaningful contribution to the world. Helpful yes, necessary no.

Originally Posted by theknightwhosaysni-NI

If relationships goes in second position, it's definitely helpful.

I agree, it has to come second or even third or fourth.

However I wouldn't look at it the way you are. Relationships are necessary to a person's well being. We need affection, connection communion etc.
As good relationships is something that we need to cover our affection needs, only when we are ok with the "relationship" part of our life can we contribute effectively. It doesn't necessarily need to be a LLTR kind of relationship, that's just the most common kind.

I agree that we can only contribute effectively if our social and emotional needs are being met. We need relationships in our lives.

But I also agree with you that it doesn't have to be a LTR. It can be short-term relationships too.

It doesn't have to be one either, there's polyamory too.

It does not even have to be a romantic relationship. Social and emotional needs can be covered by a bunch of loving, supportive friends too.

In fact I think it is smarter to enter a romantic relationship only when you don't really need it and already have your social and emotional needs met by friends, otherwise you're dependent on your partner. But this is off-topic here.