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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  An LLT(MB)R for me would be something that adds to but subtracts nothing from my life. |
Well Jim, having a relationship does have to subtract at least something. I mean, you only have 24 hours in a day, so if you are in a relationship as opposed to not being in a relationship, that means that some of the time you spent doing something beforehand is something you won't be able to do now. Maybe it was a friend, maybe it's playing computer games, or something. So maybe the overall effect is to add, but on some level it has to subtract something in order to make room for it.
My question though, do you see a relationship as possibly adding to your ability to contribute your music to the world, or maybe as a possible distraction from your ability to put your music to the world?
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Originally Posted by theknightwhosaysni-NI A LLTR can definitely distract from contributing, especially if we have a tendancy to put our relationships on the top of our priority list.
If relationships goes in second position, it's definitely helpful. That's not something that's necessarily easy to explain to your partner if he/she doesn't have the same view though. |
That's true. I'm talking about partners that are well aligned with your values and way of looking at the world, and way of looking at relationships. That's interesting though, maybe relationship has to be second position if you're to focus successfully on contributing...hrm. I think I read Steve write something related to that.
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As good relationships is something that we need to cover our affection needs, only when we are ok with the "relationship" part of our life can we contribute effectively.
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Heh, you're going the opposite way - saying that those who aren't in a relationship can't contribute effectively? Or that you have to be ok with whatever status you're at?