[spookie149]

Maybe you're picking the wrong times to communicate with him? If you're really excited about something and want to share an idea or thought that's great. However, if you're asking him to listen when he has had a long day at work and needs a bit of time to unwind, it might be better to ask over dinner when he's had a bit of time to himself. Have you ever read Men Are From Mars? Definitely worth reading. I think that would help with some communication issues.

You said you used to nag. But you're still doing the stuff that makes you mad. So instead of fixing the situation you're just choking back your own feelings on the situation. That's not fair. So you feel guilty or responsible for doing the laundry or finding his keys. From what you're saying, it sounds like he's gotten into a habit of letting you do these things for him. That's right- he's letting you do these things for him. Why? Because you've shown you can and you will. To be fair, I think most of us wouldn't do the laundry or the dishes etc if we knew our partners would take care of it anyway. Don't nag. Just don't do it. Wash your clothes when he's not around. As for the keys, shrug and let him find them himself. It will only take once or twice before he owns up and starts doing it himself and will stop asking. Eventually he's stop throwing hissy fits because it won't do him any good. If he's got any brains he'll learn to do it himself ahead of time so he doesn't keep going through the morning routine. Note- just because he stops asking you for help finding his wallet doesn't mean he'll stop asking you for help with a problem or feelings.