Very interesting conversation.........
By not picking up the phone, you are not doing yourself, your friend or your relationship any favors in the bigger picture. To be free, happy and who you are truly wanna be, I believe you have to be happy with yourself and all your decisons. I always pick up the phone, if I did not like in your case, I would question my action, becuase something must be wrong (like you did to start this excellent thread). If I did not want to talk, I would pick up the phone and be straight forward with them, yes you hear comments, pear pressure all that good stuff, it is call so what. Over time you will have your real friends stick with you and build strong relationships and you will weed out the materialistic ones. This makes YOU stronger.
I will give you an examples of my expereinces....
First, I use to go out to the clubs/bars 4-5 times a week, then I started finding it pointless, over time I started going twice, then once, then once a month and less and less. First, I realized when I went, I did not miss anything, second my friends stopped calling me to invite me, they respected that I said no and knew I would call when I wanted to come out, however they are still my good friends today. Yes, you need to have the discipline to say no when a little pear pressure given or they make fun of you, but you have to do what you believe is right to benefit you.
FYI - they realized and stopped a few years later and becuase I spent that time running a internet business, I am now financially, maturity and mentally ahead.
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