A LLTR can definitely distract from contributing, especially if we have a tendancy to put our relationships on the top of our priority list.
If relationships goes in second position, it's definitely helpful. That's not something that's necessarily easy to explain to your partner if he/she doesn't have the same view though.
However I wouldn't look at it the way you are. Relationships are necessary to a person's well being. We need affection, connection communion etc.
As good relationships is something that we need to cover our affection needs, only when we are ok with the "relationship" part of our life can we contribute effectively. It doesn't necessarily need to be a LLTR kind of relationship, that's just the most common kind.
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