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Originally Posted by Nicketas  It's called boundaries.
You set your own boundaries as to what you will and will not tolerate for your OWN life. Your friends (and even your mom, eventually) will soon learn your preferences and either adapt or leave.
So you don't want to pick up the phone. So what? Just Don't.
I don't answer EVERY TIME my friends (or even/especially my lovers) call. I have a life of my own separate from them. They get it. If they ask me later why I was busy, I tell them.
If your friends argue with you about YOUR life or are as pushy/needy as you say, it's time to get new friends. |
I agree on the boundaries. Even within a couple there has got to be boundaries set and communicated so that each party knows where their expectations extend to.
Refusing to pick up the calls can only be a temporary solution. Letting your friends know the truth is the way to go in the long run. As to how you communicate to them your boundaries and making them accept and understand without losing their friendship is really the part I call social intelligence.
