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Originally Posted by Erock  My mom and I were having a little debate the other day. The situation was that I had not picked up the phone (caller ID) from a friend of mine, because I wanted to do something without him. She said that truly social people always answer the phone and are just honest about what they want to do. I have a lot of pushy friends, and it's hard for me to say no because they don't really listen, so I would rather just not pick up the phone.
Kind of a dumb question, but what do you guys think on this? |
It's called boundaries.
You set your own boundaries as to what you will and will not tolerate for your OWN life. Your friends (and even your mom, eventually) will soon learn your preferences and either adapt or leave.
So you don't want to pick up the phone. So what? Just Don't.
I don't answer EVERY TIME my friends (or even/especially my lovers) call. I have a life of my own separate from them. They get it. If they ask me later why I was busy, I tell them.
If your friends argue with you about YOUR life or are as pushy/needy as you say, it's time to get new friends.