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Originally Posted by Pequod  if every post was "yeah, but" then where would we be? 
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Well,believe it or not,these posts do help me...i have learned a lot about myself from people in here,and by explaining myself and defending my position more,that brings out things that other people have said that nobody has ever said to me,probably because i don't have these discussions in real life with anyone who personally knows me. I feel like this is therapy for me. So while it may appear that i am just fighting everyone's words,it is doing some good,and it does eventually bring me somewhere.
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This could be a sign of low confidence. On that note, if I may give you one tip for improving your confidence: you adress yourself always with a lower case "i". It's better to use capital "I". It may seem a detail, but I've noticed the way one adresses him/herself is almost always related to his/her level of self-confidence.
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Well,if you notice,i am a lazy typer...i type "cuz" instead of "because",and i dont capitalize anything except the first letter of every sentence. I always type a capital "I" if it's the beginning of the sentence. Although this is wierd,when i send emails to people i always type my name in all caps LOL like,"SHELLY". But i hate finding the shift key just for one measly letter so i only do it when i have to
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I know this is not always the case, I just put it black and white for the sake of argument. But I remember a recent thread in which you stated that you perceive guys that like you as "lower status" and thus not interesting, and guys that don't like you back as "higher status" and therefore there is never a satisfying relationship possible. Doesn't that mechanism fit in my describtion?
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Well that is mostly how it seems to be,there are always exceptions though. Maybe i came across as this loser who has never even kissed a guy. Well i had one serious boyfriend which lasted 2 years,and then i casually dated about 3 or 4 other guys (for no more than 3 months at the most),and met maybe 10 other guys who i wanted to date and seemed interested in me but it was more of like a flirting relationship,it never went anywhere. So yeah it does work out occasionally (to some degree) but i guess we only focus on the majority of what we see,thats why i tend to forget about all those guys cuz they were in the minority. And those were all years ago so i also focus on NOW,which currently there aren't any guys in my life except ones that find me on the internet wanting to have cyber sex
