I want to congratulate you, J, first off, on honoring your instincts, which seemed to tell you that this conversation was not the best time to pass on to your mother what you've learned about the LoA and subjective reality. As you've described the situation here, I can imagine that your mother has a lot to process and work through at the moment and such times are not the best, for many people, to learn a new skill. Your instincts may have been telling you that your mother may be at this time one of those people.
Without knowing you or your mother or the relationship you share, if I were in your place, I might decide that passing on the fundamentals of the LoA in this moment but, rather, I would use my knowledge of the LoA to guide me to helping my mother understand what it is she might like to attract to herself from this point forward. I would ask her all sorts of questions about whatever it is, getting as much detail and feeling from her as I could. In a way, I'd almost be guiding her in a visualization of sorts. But be careful here, because if done too obviously or heavy-handedly, your mother might feel manipulated or that you're guiding when she wants to be listened to.
Additionally, knowing from the LoA that she has attracted her circumstances to her, I would explore (without getting into the LoA with her) what beliefs she may have that might help or hinder her attraction efforts.
Later on, since she's already familiar with "The Secret," I might discuss some steps or exercises or other form of Deliberate Creation to help her attract to herself something in alignment to who she is.
Again, assuming I was in your place (HUGE assumption there), I would know that she's in a more receptive place, when her circumstances have shifted a bit, when she may have created/attracted to herself some small sign and when she starts asking me questions along the lines of "I'm not sure I understand you," or "How does this work?" or "That was great, tell me more."
From your post, I sense that your instincts told you not to get into the whole "responsibility" issue and, as you know, many people (especially when they're in difficult situations) have reactions to that concept. Personally, while I embrace the notion of "responsibility," when I speak to a "newbie" about the LoA, I tend to use the terms like "power," "talent," or "skill," which have less judgement attached to them and, in my experience, tend to empower the people to whom I've spoken.
While I completely empathize with your intentions, I often have to remind myself of Abraham's comment about how we're not here to "fix" anyone (including ourselves). Sometimes, maybe our loved ones attract us into their lives simply just to listen.
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