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Originally Posted by Rockchick26  And honestly,i dont think any guys in here would date me after reading enough of my posts about this  |
You don't know that. You're just assuming your worst fears are true and, usually, they aren't.
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I believe you,it's just that my experience shows me the opposite. And for some reason something about me attracts the guys that think i'm easy,which couldnt be further from the truth. Well i'm single and i'm skinny and cute and i'm always smiling,i guess that is a pretty inviting scenario |
Stop paying attention to those guys and starting paying attention to the ones that don't think you're easy. That is a decision
you must make!
We tend to think of ourselves as astute observers who don't miss a thing, when in reality we only take notice of a small percentage of the impulses that our mind receives. Our brain casts away 95% of the information that our senses provide in order to make sensible decisions on the remaining 5%.
How is this relevant? Your thought process
is the filter. The stuff - good or bad - that occupies your mind is filtered out for you, presenting you with a reality that is comfortably familiar, but far from complete.
It's why one person sees just a row of parked cars along the street and the other notices that the make and model she drives is present five times in three different colors. Your mind brings cars of the make and model you own to the forefront to help you find where yours is parked after that long shopping session.
Likewise, your mind brings to the forefront the things that you want to
avoid,
to help you avoid them. Unfortunately, it can also get so caught up in the avoiding that it starts missing the things it really desires... which is something, I think, you're quite familiar with.
Shift your focus!