[Erock]

Originally Posted by ChefSalad

You know, I know a lot of people who do that and it bothers the crap out of me. It just doesn't seem right ignoring people and seems worse telling lies. In fact, this is the subject of a frequent, on-going dispute I have with some of my better friends. I, personally, find that telling any lie, no matter how white, goes against my better judgment. I would rather tell them the truth or nothing, and, more importantly, I would rather hear the truth or nothing. White lies suck.

And it's funny because one of the biggest reason this friend of mine lies is to because he doesn't want to hang out with those people, or his wife doesn't. That's very similar to your reasoning. And he frequently avoids phone calls from certain people for much the same reasons. Anyway, what's funny, is that I used to (and sometimes slip up and) do that too. One day, about six months ago, I decided to stop that and haven't looked back. At first, some of my pushier friends kept pushing and pushing but after a few times, they got the hint and let off when I said I didn't want to do X. Try it, it really works. Now, if only I could get my friend to join the "social" crowd.

Ya know, my conscious tells me that you are right on this. It's tough being honest, but it's tougher on myself to avoid the phone or lie. I'll try this out, but man is it going to be tough. Teenage boys are ruthless.