[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by evevera

You have a lot of rules for how a relationship is suppose to be for you. When you have so many rules, you're only shooting yourself in the foot. You'll never get it perfectly the way you want it. True love and the "right one" only shows up when you're open and willing to let them in. Those rules are block them from coming in, that's why you're single.

Because i have values? Because i can't help what i am attracted to? Who doesnt have those rules? I am not going to sleep with every guy i meet on the first date just to get a guy.

You say you can't change. Bull. You don't want to change and you don't want to have a boyfriend. If you did, you would have one right now.

Well i had a boyfriend for 2 years and i dated a handful of other guys without changing my values and my preferences. If it happened then it can surely happen now.

Open yourself to love, drop these stupid rules about how they should look. Looks don't last, when you're both 70, you're going to look terrible anyway. It's whats inside the person that you should be focusing on. (LOoks also change!)

I am not saying i date guys only based on how they look. You don't have to tell me that it's what inside that counts LOL Geez thats common sense. What i am saying is i have to be attracted to the guy. Obviously,i mean doesn't everyone? Otherwise we might as well walk outside and close our eyes and hold our finger out and whoever we touch first we would date them no matter what they look like! You have to have an attraction to them otherwise you won't want to be sexual with them. Are you telling me if you saw this guy that you would want to crawl in bed with him cuz he's such a nice guy?

I would really like you for once to step outside your comfort zone and really open up to some guys you never would have before. Don't write them off after a date or two just because you didn't "feel it" with them physically. If their personality fits yours, keep dating them and see what develops.

I HAVE done this! One guy i dated,all my friends said 'this guy is the total opposite of you,what do you see in him?' but yet i continued to date him,but the poor guy,i gave it 4 months and i still never got to the point where i wanted to fool around with him,and i ended up breaking his heart

Attraction can develop overtime, and your one bad experience in this case is just one bad experience.

What bad experience are you talking about? This isnt based off one bad experience. Or any experience really,its just a matter of what trips my trigger and what doesn't.

I see a lot of pretty women with ugly guys, but they're treated like gold and very happy. I also see a lot of women with hot guys and they end up being cheated on and abused to no end. Whats the point? Just so you have someone hot to show off when you walk down the street?

I think i am greatly misunderstood in this thread I am not saying i would pick the most gorgeous guy out there just because i could show him off. Some of the guys i have liked,my friends go "eww!! He looks like a girl!" or "what did you see in him,its about time you dumped him!" I would also not stay with a guy just because he was hot if he abused me. This is not what i am saying AT ALL.