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Originally Posted by striving4peace  Pequad, as a guy who has had a lot of sexual encounters |
Ehhm, please don't overestimate me
I am by no means a dating guru. I'm just an ordinary guy that at some point in his life decided to fix his non-existing love life and ended up in the seduction community, only to leave when he saw through the balloney. I never gave it my 100% and am glad about that too.
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Originally Posted by striving4peace what's your honest take on the other thing that was told to me. That it's better to not know what sex with others is like, and enter into a monogamous sexual relationship that will last the rest of my life so that that one girl remains the 'best' i'll ever have? |
I think there is nothing wrong with having only one sexual partner in your life and there is nothing wrong with having many. It depends on why you coose for the one or the other.
I don't like the reason you give in the question for having only one partner. To choose for only one partner to let her be the best you ever had is imo refusing to acknowledge the reality of the situation. In fact, it could even be that the sex isn't good at all!
Another drawback of this approach is that the sex with this one partner becomes tremendously important: it is the only experience you'll ever have and you know that beforehand. That puts a lot of pressure on you, and will be an obstacle in creating a healthy sexual relationship.
Perhaps the best approach is to take it as it comes. Maybe she will be your only one, maybe not.