Thank you Pequod, I shall find this book.
It is true I have achieved a lot in life in other aspects - but I can't bring myself to solidly agree that i wouldn't have managed to do it if i was having sex all this time. there are people who achieve AND have sex in their twenties. But it is also true that I have a lot of discipline and self control and it's only gotten to this point over the last decade.
I really dont want to enjoy the benefits of my patience without sex while going through another dry spell once I'm married :P I can do without anymore dry spells henceforth, thank you very much
Pequad, as a guy who has had a lot of sexual encounters, what's your honest take on the other thing that was told to me. That it's better to not know what sex with others is like, and enter into a monogamous sexual relationship that will last the rest of my life so that that one girl remains the 'best' i'll ever have?