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C33 · 12-31-2006, 06:52 PM

Hi,

I just sent a text mess to 2 friends I had trouble being with( see post). I feel positive and relieved.

I told them I needed distance, they decided they wanted permanent distance. Fair enough. I accept the consequences of my actions.

One of them was really angry and nasty, curiously, it is the one that I feel has been trying to "steal" my other friends away from me, for choice of a better word/ description.

The other one just tried to patronize me and told me I was narcissistic. I can't help it, my bday is on St Narcissus day!

In the end, I feel that if they are really meant to be my friends, they will re-open the channel of communication.

I wish I had told them a long time ago, that I needed time, my only regret is not to have been able to tell them in details, what was not working in our communication.

All in all a positive experience, to start a New Year, where I won t have to ♥♥♥♥♥ about these 2 friends and feel ♥♥♥♥♥♥ around them.

Surprisingly, none of them had any compassion towards me, they both got angry about the fact I wanted distance. They didn t get worried that I was not feeling well, even though they said that they were worried about my emotional being over the holidays.

I can see now, that they didn t really worry about me at all, but that they worried about when they would be able to see me to dump their toxic stories on me.

This is a lesson well learned. I talked with another friend of mine who knows the other ones, and, instead of taking their defense, as I thought she would, she just said she understood that I needed to protect myself.

Now that all the resentment towards them, and myself for letting them pollute my emotional well being ,is gone, I feel so much better, more positive, more relaxed.

I wish you the best of luck dealing with your situation.

12-31-2006, 06:52 PM	#18 (permalink)
C33 Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 623	Just cleared up toxic situation... Hi, I just sent a text mess to 2 friends I had trouble being with( see post). I feel positive and relieved. I told them I needed distance, they decided they wanted permanent distance. Fair enough. I accept the consequences of my actions. One of them was really angry and nasty, curiously, it is the one that I feel has been trying to "steal" my other friends away from me, for choice of a better word/ description. The other one just tried to patronize me and told me I was narcissistic. I can't help it, my bday is on St Narcissus day! In the end, I feel that if they are really meant to be my friends, they will re-open the channel of communication. I wish I had told them a long time ago, that I needed time, my only regret is not to have been able to tell them in details, what was not working in our communication. All in all a positive experience, to start a New Year, where I won t have to ♥♥♥♥♥ about these 2 friends and feel ♥♥♥♥♥♥ around them. Surprisingly, none of them had any compassion towards me, they both got angry about the fact I wanted distance. They didn t get worried that I was not feeling well, even though they said that they were worried about my emotional being over the holidays. I can see now, that they didn t really worry about me at all, but that they worried about when they would be able to see me to dump their toxic stories on me. This is a lesson well learned. I talked with another friend of mine who knows the other ones, and, instead of taking their defense, as I thought she would, she just said she understood that I needed to protect myself. Now that all the resentment towards them, and myself for letting them pollute my emotional well being ,is gone, I feel so much better, more positive, more relaxed. I wish you the best of luck dealing with your situation.