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Originally Posted by Parthon  Just like music, where you have to learn notes, scales, keys and chords to be able to play, there are similar rules in life, unwritten but ubiquitous rules that govern how people interact. If you don't want to learn and follow those rules, then in the arena of romance you'll sound just like that 5 year old kid randomly plucking guitar strings and making an awful racket. |
I feel the opposite as you do,if i reply to a message,that means it sparked something in me and i want to delve farther into the discussion. By not replying,you wouldn't even know if i had even read your post! So,here's what i have to say about this part about the music...i 100% disagree,because you don't have to learn music in order to play it. I can play any song by ear within minutes,on the piano and i cant remember which keys are which. Most musicians are self taught. You dont have to know the rules to play the game,you can make up your own rules (when it comes to music,anyway...it's rather encouraged).
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There are many, many friendships that become relationships, but in every case, the guy and girl would have found each other attractive even before they were friends.
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Well once again,it didnt happen that way for me. I seem to be an exception to all the rules you are throwing at me LOL And if i can be an exception,others can be too. When i fell in love with my best friend,i was not attracted to him when i first met him...it took a few years and then after we started hanging out on a regular basis,it took about 2 months. If that can happen that way for me,it can happen that way for someone else. And what about when people undergo a physical change? (new hairstyle,lose weight,wear makeup,dress different,etc) That could also make someone see somebody in a new light. I am not asking for them NOT to find me attractive right away,though,i am just asking that they respect me and not want to use me for sex.
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For me, I find myself in the same position though. I want to meet a girl whom I can cherish and honour, someone to share hopes and dreams with. Not just another person, but a companion to be with, together. In the end, it's what every intelligent person really wants.
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Exactly! That's why i feel more intelligent than most of the guys i meet.