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Originally Posted by striving4peace  RockChick26, any relationship or psychology expert will tell you this - and it's kinda obvious and probably redundant - but men are extremely visual creatures - women are not.
Women care a lot more about feelings, the mood, the connection... and i'm not saying men don't, but most of us tend to care a lot less about it. That's the way we're usually wired up. It's mars and venus. It's not a rule of thumb, it's not a blanket statement, but usually that's how it goes. |
Yeah i understand this,but like you said,it's not that men don't have feelings,but visual stuff comes first. Well then how do relationships EVER start out where they are friends first? Is that only possible with men who aren't as visual?
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What you're feeling is not new or unusual - most women feel it too. But I feel a certain amount of education about men and women, and a paradigm shift must occur if you're going to increase your chances at finding the relationship you like.
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Well if you are insinuating that i lower my standards in any way or change what i am attracted to,that just cannot be done. What CAN be done is i can change my vibration to match that of who i want to attract. Basically become what i want to attract. That's partly why i want to get into music for a living because i feel that is where my soul is and my life will move forward and reward me with everything i dream of,once i get over that hill. I can also work on my social skills,thats my other hurdle to get over. But i still have to work on my deal with these "leagues" (if you are familiar with that thread,you know what i mean).
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I'm curious: From what you've said are you trying/hoping to fall in love with someone before having sex with him?
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Well it doesn't have to be full blown love,all i really need is to establish a good foundation of friendship. You know,actually know the guy for at least a few months before dating so that we can get to know each other as people and not as potential dates trying to impress each other. I rarely go for guys who try to impress me,i go for ones who i can hang out with casually. Where dating isnt even on our minds yet. In my opinion,it gets in the way of getting to know someone. To me there would be nothing on this Earth better than hanging out with a good guy friend,and we fool around playfully and innocently like we always do but this time it sparks something inside both of us,not because it happened but because who it is happening with,and we look at each other and we both realize it,and then we lean in for a kiss and its the best kiss ever because we are kissing with our body and our spirit. Everything is better with feelings. Not forced,just natural feelings gradually building until we both just have to admit it,we're falling for each other!
