RockChick26, any relationship or psychology expert will tell you this - and it's kinda obvious and probably redundant - but men are extremely visual creatures - women are not.
Women care a lot more about feelings, the mood, the connection... and i'm not saying men don't, but most of us tend to care a lot less about it. That's the way we're usually wired up. It's mars and venus. It's not a rule of thumb, it's not a blanket statement, but usually that's how it goes.
What you're feeling is not new or unusual - most women feel it too. But I feel a certain amount of education about men and women, and a paradigm shift must occur if you're going to increase your chances at finding the relationship you like.
I'm curious: From what you've said are you trying/hoping to fall in love with someone before having sex with him?
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