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Originally Posted by Rockchick26  all the ones i know are all about sex EXCEPT for my dad and brother |
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I've known some who are like the men you're talking about.
But then I've known well rounded individuals too. They care about sex, but also about a lot of other things.
You say you're not making a blanket statement but your question seems to be based on an assumption that men 'don't care about anything other than sex' when in fact that's what I'm trying to correct:
Not all men are like that.
Many men care for a lot more things than sex.
Ironically many of the men you've seem to have interacted with, probably suffer from the opposite side of the problem I've been dealing with (if you've been following my posts on this thread) - which is letting ego come in to play and deciding how much sex one must have based on how your self esteem and vision for your life is.
In other words, from what I have seen and observed - most of those sex crazy men will want to have as much sex as possible - not for the sake of sex itself, but because it will make them feel like they are 'masculine', 'manly', 'cool'. It really does become a pissing contest at the end of it, even if it's sometimes just in the head of those guys. "I've slept with so many hot women - I am awesome! I'm' having a better life than that sorry loser across the room who isn't getting any". Whether its societal conditioning or anthropological, it's pandering to lower unexamined thinking patterns.
I know you are struggling with what to do with a gender which you perceive to be a collective of mindless animals without control but with the only objective of getting into the pants of an opposite gender - and are wondering how you will find someone when you are quite different from what they're looking for. Here's my suggestion - learn to accept that almost all guys (esp young ones) will have a powerful sex drive - but try and find the ones that have *more* passions than just that. Trust me, the world wouldn't be what it is today, if it wasn't for guys who loved what they did too. And no, I don't agree with Freud when he says 'everything is about sex' including the accomplishments of man in other fields. The best jobs in life are ones you love doing even MORE than sex - the ones that give the feeling of 'flow'.