[bd90]

I think it's great what you're doing. More guys should. Women find that stuff really hot!

I'm glad you said that. Sometimes I get this idea that women would think I'm strange or creepy. But I'm not that type of guy. I'm just a fun loving person. But I'm curious to know why women find it hot? Is it because it takes confidence to approach a women?

I was at a bar. He came next to me, turned, smiled and said 'hi, can I buy you a drink?'. He seemed confident but not arrogant. Much later on in the conversation he admitted that he was scared stiff asking if he could buy me a drink, but he didn't want to appear desperate. Again, a touch of humour, something to make him human.

It's good to know that it's okay to feel nervous. I used to think that conversations between the opposite sex had to be perfect. Or that I needed to swoon a girl. Nowadays, I true to see the humor in interactions. I've come to realize that relationships and conversations grow organically. That's why they are so much fun. You never know what's going to happen.

bd90- It's true about making the girl feel special. However, be careful not to pull out the cliches. Some girls are romantic and love that stuff. But there are others who are turned off by it. Which kind of woman are you attracted to? A dreamer?

Women that are down-to-earth, fun loving, with a good heart? Vanity is such a turn off for me.

Another thing about the women who didn't smile back. Did you notice if they were sometimes the more attractive ones? Generally speaking I am flattered if a guy calls me beautiful. However, if it's done wrong I would get turned off. I know when I doll myself up I can be a head turner. If that's what I'm going for then a comment like you're beautiful is fine.

Yes, the ones that didn't smile back were younger/attractive? Normally I would tend to believe they were stuck up, but in reality I know that this is not true. So I've been working on changing my assumptions about beautiful women and people in general. From my experience, when I go out with no prejudgments about people things tend to turn out for the best.

My question to the women is:

What are some of the best/sincere compliments that you've gotten from men? Why was it so great? And how did it make you feel? Please reply. I think I could learn a lot from this.

Also, it seems like most relationships find each other through their friends. Have you ever dated a guy that was out of your circle of friends? Maybe someone you randomly met at a social function?

Thanks for the posts. I am learning a lot and validating a lot of beliefs I've felt to be true.