I like your experiment. I think more people should try this. Talking to strangers really isn't so hard.
Here's a follow-up experiment. Make a goal to talk to X number of people. Say "hi" AND follow up with a sincere-sounding compliment. Bonus points each time you can get the other person to smile.
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When I guy approaches you for whatever reason, do you automatically think he is hitting on you? |
No, why would I? Context, body language, and conversation would tell me if he was thinking those thoughts.
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Would you be offended if a guy came up to you and said "hey, I find you attractive and would like to go out with you for a cup of coffee to get to know you better?" If not, what would be a better way for a man to approach you.
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Sounds good to me. I might be more inclined to say no until I talked to the guy a moment first. I'd hate to agree to meet him just to find out he's an arrogant SOB who just wants to talk about how beautiful he thinks he is.
Why not break the ice with a conversation starter. Then after a minute or dialogue say "hey, do you want to go grab some coffee and chat some more?" I love conversation starters.
It can be as simple as making a compliment on what they're wearing, doing, or driving.
The big mistake I think guys do make is to be scared off if they don't immediately get a huge "YES!" answer. Sometimes we're just caught off guard, deep in thought about something else, and it takes us a moment to process and respond to the inquiry. Dont give up right away.
Bonus points to the guy who will give me his number rather than asking me for mine. Guys who don't talk much but immediately ask for phone numbers come across as dishonest, as if they're players who count the number of phone #s they can collect in a day. Double bonus points if we swap numbers and you call me first.