I have a guy friend who was asking me why it was that my ex-boyfriend had managed to date three attractive girls when the ex was nothing special and a bit immature and yet he (my friend) had trouble dating anyone. He felt it had a lot to do with looks. Whilst looks play a small part I was trying to explain that it was the way my ex-boyfriend introduced himself that caught my attention.
I was at a bar. He came next to me, turned, smiled and said 'hi, can I buy you a drink?'. He seemed confident but not arrogant. Much later on in the conversation he admitted that he was scared stiff asking if he could buy me a drink, but he didn't want to appear desperate. Again, a touch of humour, something to make him human.
I understand it is really difficult for guys (more so than girls because of the social pressure) so I gave some tips to my guy friend:
1) Smile and look the person in the eye
2) Appear confident - it is off putting if someone is so obviously very very nervous because that makes someone laugh nervously, or talk too much or too little. Then I end up feeling sorry for them rather than attracted to them. I understand this is quite difficult but with practice you can get better .......bd90 it seems as if you are completely doing the right thing!
That's it. That is how my average immature ex-boyfriend managed to date three lovely ladies
(.....keeping them on another hand was another matter.....)