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aelle · 12-02-2008, 02:24 PM

For 5-10 pounds? Really? I don't even notice when I gain or lose 5 pounds. If your SO's weight is reaching an unhealthy range, she knows it. If, healthy or not, she has a problem with her weight she will most likely let you know.

I wouldn't mind my own boyfriend commenting on my weight, but that's only because I know he has zero issue with my size (I was 50lb heavier when we started dating, and he's attracted to me all the same) and because I have no body image issues at all myself (I never dieted or felt the need to control my food or my size, I only focus on pleasure and health). If that's the case in your relationship, go ahead and comment. But just the fact that you are asking for advice suggests that you have an issue with weight gain or suspect your SO has.
There is no need to feed self esteem problems ; dealing with insecurities is more efficient and growth oriented. And you may just as well end up in the same place: in my experience a healthy weight naturally comes from a healthy mindset, not the other way round.

12-02-2008, 02:24 PM	#3 (permalink)
aelle Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: France - Japan - Korea Posts: 758	For 5-10 pounds? Really? I don't even notice when I gain or lose 5 pounds. If your SO's weight is reaching an unhealthy range, she knows it. If, healthy or not, she has a problem with her weight she will most likely let you know. I wouldn't mind my own boyfriend commenting on my weight, but that's only because I know he has zero issue with my size (I was 50lb heavier when we started dating, and he's attracted to me all the same) and because I have no body image issues at all myself (I never dieted or felt the need to control my food or my size, I only focus on pleasure and health). If that's the case in your relationship, go ahead and comment. But just the fact that you are asking for advice suggests that you have an issue with weight gain or suspect your SO has. There is no need to feed self esteem problems ; dealing with insecurities is more efficient and growth oriented. And you may just as well end up in the same place: in my experience a healthy weight naturally comes from a healthy mindset, not the other way round.