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Originally Posted by bd90  I've been working on approaching women. One assignment I tried was to say hi to 200 women. So I went to a mall and did that. The interactions were interesting. Some women were shocked, some ignored me, some said hi back and seemed pleasantly surprised by it. Only a small few seemed to be annoyed by it. The point was to realize that women are friendly and there's nothing wrong with approaching random strangers. I did feel uncomfortable at first, but it got better throughout the day.
Questions for the men:
Do you have a fear of approaching women? And how do you overcome it? Have you had any positive experiences?
Being a man is tough because we face the fear of rejection when asking a girl out. That's why we get so nervous. My next assignment is to get rejected by 101 women so that I can get used to rejection. I plan to ask random women to go out for a cup of coffee.
Questions for the women:
When I guy approaches you for whatever reason, do you automatically think he is hitting on you?
Would you be offended if a guy came up to you and said "hey, I find you attractive and would like to go out with you for a cup of coffee to get to know you better?" If not, what would be a better way for a man to approach you. |
A few years ago I was afraid to approach women. I was caught up with the fear of rejection.
A year or so of pillow hugging changed that for me. Once I realized that I had something to offer (looks, charm, jokes, creativity, brains, etc) it became a lot easier to approach women and get dates.
When I defeated my fear all of my experiences were positive. I started leaning on my ability to find humor in most situations. Whenever I saw a female that I wanted to approach I would think of something funny to say and use that as a springboard. So far I'm 100%.
Here's a tip: If you're approaching a woman don't go on and on about how beautiful she is. She already knows, do something different and memorable.