You know what Leaf, I am so impressed by you. You're 16, thoughtful, intelligent, caring, taking responsibility for your own personal development in very trying circumstances. You've turned yourself around in a year. Wow!
I don't know what the exact answer is. I think it would be hard for anyone to maintain a postive attitude in the face of such emotional abuse. However if you can manage it at home, now, then once you get out into the world you will be very strong and be able to tackle anything. I have confidence in you that you will find the answer. It takes courage to stand up for your own life and be who you are, but you are already doing it. You may have times where you feel dragged down but you will find a way through. They are frightened and all there actions are coming from fear. Is there anyway you could feel pity or love for them instead of feeling guilty when they put you down. You are not responsible for their happiness, however if you stick to your path, maybe you can show them the way to break out of the cages they have created themselves.
When they say those things to you how do you react. Have you told them calmly how they make you feel when they put you down. Do you go out anyway regardless of what they say? (I hope you do!). It's great that you have friends and invites out, that just shows that your parents are talking complete bollocks. Just a thought, but is there anyone that you could move in with for a few months to give you a bit of space. I know they don't have any friends, but are there any relatives or even a teacher at school that you could lodge with while you complete your schooling?
I'm sorry this is a bit short on practical advice, but I really do think that you will make it and be successful.
And good luck with that sweet pretty girl too
