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bd90 · 12-01-2008, 08:06 AM

I've been working on approaching women. One assignment I tried was to say hi to 200 women. So I went to a mall and did that. The interactions were interesting. Some women were shocked, some ignored me, some said hi back and seemed pleasantly surprised by it. Only a small few seemed to be annoyed by it. The point was to realize that women are friendly and there's nothing wrong with approaching random strangers. I did feel uncomfortable at first, but it got better throughout the day.

Questions for the men:

Do you have a fear of approaching women? And how do you overcome it? Have you had any positive experiences?

Being a man is tough because we face the fear of rejection when asking a girl out. That's why we get so nervous. My next assignment is to get rejected by 101 women so that I can get used to rejection. I plan to ask random women to go out for a cup of coffee.

Questions for the women:

When I guy approaches you for whatever reason, do you automatically think he is hitting on you?

Would you be offended if a guy came up to you and said "hey, I find you attractive and would like to go out with you for a cup of coffee to get to know you better?" If not, what would be a better way for a man to approach you.

12-01-2008, 08:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
bd90 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 29	Approaching Women/Fear of Rejection (Questions for Men & Women) I've been working on approaching women. One assignment I tried was to say hi to 200 women. So I went to a mall and did that. The interactions were interesting. Some women were shocked, some ignored me, some said hi back and seemed pleasantly surprised by it. Only a small few seemed to be annoyed by it. The point was to realize that women are friendly and there's nothing wrong with approaching random strangers. I did feel uncomfortable at first, but it got better throughout the day. Questions for the men: Do you have a fear of approaching women? And how do you overcome it? Have you had any positive experiences? Being a man is tough because we face the fear of rejection when asking a girl out. That's why we get so nervous. My next assignment is to get rejected by 101 women so that I can get used to rejection. I plan to ask random women to go out for a cup of coffee. Questions for the women: When I guy approaches you for whatever reason, do you automatically think he is hitting on you? Would you be offended if a guy came up to you and said "hey, I find you attractive and would like to go out with you for a cup of coffee to get to know you better?" If not, what would be a better way for a man to approach you.