I can relate to your situation. My first experience was with a prostitute at age 26. I am 35 and still have never been in a relationship. The truth is, I don't feel any better. Sometimes I feel ashamed that I actually had to resort to that. But sometimes I say, who cares? I do think our society tends to overvalue the act. Just like most people mentioned here, it doesn't change who you are or make you a better person for doing it. It won't validate anything about you and it shouldn't. Love who you are.
When I was younger I use to overvalue guys who got laid often thinking that they were better than me. It made me feel low. Then I realized a lot of these people are people I would never hang out with. My priorities and relationships I choose are more about people who share my same values. Screw what other people think (no pun intended). Be you.
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